Phobias are listed on this page alphabetically by their medical or scientific label. I do not think I need romance in order to have a good life. Then my crush started to approach me, and I was so blinded by “love” that I fell for his trap. Unsure what to say when he ask me if he could court me and i nervously answered him with a yes. My mother became depressed…doing her self and emotionally abandoned me as well as my sisters and grandmother. You will soon realize that love is an important thing in life. The first step is to identify and really understand the problem itself, to grasp it so that it can be captured and targeted. The kids stayed with me and I raised them. You’ve got a long long way hun, to grow, and figure all that live crap out later, besides that’s freaking awesome! Because when people read your post they think its true. Yet the closest I will get to someone is exchanging numbers, talking and texting and a few casual dates. And at the end of the day, everyone just invalidates it, and says it’s not really a problem and even if it is, it’s all my fault. I hope you are doing good in life. But just like you I can’t seem to fall in love and I don’t think it’s a bad thing, you have less to worry about and commit to. Other people can help you, but none of that will matter if you don’t have the will to pull yourself out of this hole. Social anxiety can creep up at work, on dates, at parties, and more. In 5th grade a girl said she hated me, I was ugly, and no girl would ever like me. I’m glad I’m not the only one. I knew my classmate – Cliff (not his real name) had a crush on me so as early as i knew, i told him i had someone i loved but that was a lie because i was afraid to break our friendship. Again jumping from place to place. I don’t know if I have this phobia, but I do know that I will never, ever allow a woman into my life. Since I was suffering from them for many years but for her it is very difficult and I thank God that my sister has someone to understand her emotions. Next step is to make different possible solutions for the problem based upon the knowledge how the problem evolved. Let him tell you his whole story. Megalophobia, or the fear of large objects can mean an intense fear of things like skyscrapers, large animals, and expansive spaces. Maybe you just need to find someone who you can trust wholeheartedly and where they trust you wholeheartedly. is there a specific fear of dating women? Also, I understand that talking to someone is hard even if they are your friend so you could reach out to priest or a therapist as sometimes talking to a stranger is much easier. I have not had therapy about this before as I didn’t think it would get to this point and I was very content being single (I still am) and as I am only 16, I know that any relationship I have now won’t last and the effort to be cured would have been for nothing. As a woman, I’m really glad that I’m not from back in the days. They do have committed relationships, but cannot maintain any of them. If you don't ever need to get injections, you might not have a phobia. Even if I think about someone I even remotely like I will panic, cry and hurt myself to a point I black out. Don’t worry. — I will reply back here one day if I overcome this . I’m glad to see I’m not crazy – well that this is actually a real thing. But I was alone and I am alone. But by the way, it's pretty common for the average person to have some fear when it comes to falling in love. There are days that I so want to give up and just do myself in. Drugs and medicines may be prescribed; however, these aren’t a permanent solution. I can’t enjoy anything anymore, and most people around me have no idea how empty I feel. Then there are times when I tell myself, hey, you’re going to put fear aside and go for it. I always had a normal life. Don’t give me any of the “Not All Men” crap— simply look at every headline and every piece of news that involves a woman being killed from refusing to engage in sex with a male romantic partner, domestic abuse, sexual assault and rape, and from women breaking up with their boyfriends or fiancés. I won’t say our home isn’t happy, but I feel guilty about his absent father figure because my father was there, and still is. That’s the reason for the fights that occurred in my house and I was frustrated about it. I fear love is bad because anyone who ever told me they loved me hurt me in some way or form. People will treat you the way you think you should be treated and act the way you think they will act. Growing up, I was bullied for having emotions, being a nerd who adored learning, and having a boy for a best friend. I don't know why. A year later, i dated a guy who i was first intimate with. Luckily, I've been able to catch myself before saying it. It is a specific phobia in which a person fears developing any … They would temporarily part ways at times and all of what happened really struck at me. I couldn’t agree more and as a female, yes the same things happen to us but nobody takes it serious enough when it happens to males. I would suggest you understand what love is all about. They make perfect sense to me! Then he told me he would transfer out. Translated literally, it’s the fear of love play. Im 15 years old and since childhood I and my family faced a lot of problems. I cant believe what I have become now.. But at the end of every day I have to get back into my bed, and roll back and forth for three or four hours, wondering why no one loves me and wishing I had someone to talk to. Enjoy the next 10 or more years to figure out who you are, what you want to do and what you want in life before settling down on one idea of how life should be. Philophobia shares some similarities with disinhibited social engagement disorder (DSED), an attachment disorder in children under 18. I had to keep a smile in front of everyone. I am too afraid of being emotionally attached to anyone. Our family members were lucky in those days. I’m told they’re not all like that. Anyway, I have severe abandonment issues due to a pretty traumatic childhood and repeated failed relationships. Philophobia is an unwarranted and an irrational fear of falling in love. I don’t think that any girl on this planet would choose me. I can’t say I’m a phobia because I’ve never been hurt or dumped by a guy I was in love with but all I can say is I’m afraid of commitment and a long term relationship because I know I can’t .I’ve always been like this since I was 13yrs old until now .I’m a single 18yr old girl and I’ve been in love several times and being in love is great but sometimes we think that we are taken for granted and we end up ending the relationship .I’m in love with this guy and I guess I can’t open my heart and give him a chance because I’m afraid even though I’ve never been hurt before, maybe I’ve read several stories about heart breaks so please, I need help.. But she was never given monetary support from my father. I think it is the opposite of that never giving and always have hope for the better tomorrow is better than crying at your bedroom and blame yourself for everything about what just happened. If you are looking for a specific fear (fear of spiders, fear of animals, etc), go to the list of phobias by category. Sorry to hear about your brother. But I have never had any experience with any woman that did not cause me pain. Options include therapy, medication, lifestyle changes, or a combination of these treatments. It is most commonly found in women than in men. Then there’s the opening up to people part. Hello John, I don’t think giving up on loving someone else is a good idea, but I understand if you don’t want another woman in your life. The fear of fear phobia is often linked to Nosophobia (fear of getting sick), or Agoraphobia (which is the fear of being unable to escape or the fear of wide open spaces) as well as Claustrophobia (which is the fear of small and enclosed spaces). (Okay, no it won’t). Too bad that many of us men weren’t that blessed and lucky as we would’ve wanted that as well. You should at least try to find somebody that you can trust. Hello I really want romance but i just don’t know how to start and how i can overcome my nervousness, fear, and all of these unexplainable feelings. When you’re feeling low, it’s important to remember that you’re going through the worst of it, and things will only get better. I’ll find myself picking apart the other person or myself as to why I shouldn’t continue to pursue that person. My fear of falling in love runs so deep that just thinking about it often gives me panic attacks. This is why I think I am philophobic. You’re an amazing man to love this women. I just feel this way and I have no idea why. I would always get lied and cheated on or sometimes there was someone always interfering and caused a turmoil in the relationship. And I am always afraid of that mistake. I’ve prayed to my God and have tried to be more receptive to advances. Ive had 2 “Best Friends” since I was 12 yrs old, and while in MY heart and mind they were my best friends, I was NOT that in their eyes or heart. Mine is due to parents divorce, afterwards dad did not keep contact with me, meaning not there for those educational events that girls have. He leaves people he loves. I am a philophobia sufferer. You can have a fear of spiders, but if you live an area that never has spiders, then you don't have a phobia. i envy ’em too… i’ve never been in a relationship before, i was too afraid.. im still afraid.. and im jealous of people who aren’t. It’s typically the result of childhood trauma or neglect. These fears comes from a great love. It’s like, when I meet new people (which is really rare) I tend to keep them at a certain distance.. but when it becomes too much, push comes to shove, and I can’t handle it anymore. I used to have friends, but I have changed. Anyway this is what goes on in the minds of men when we see our girlfriends. I witnessed many unsuccessful love marriages and I don’t want to pass through it. I saw my parents divorce, fight and use violence, I’ve actually never seen any really working relationship very close. At the start of all my relationships, I feel so much fear that I cry. It’s not a fear of running I have I actually have ran out of rooms leaving everyone puzzled at my behavior. I have the feeling, I don’t or can’t need relationships, it’s superfluous. He’s bossy and domineering because he’s trying to guard his manhood by wanting me to submit to him. When I missed him, i told him i liked him. Except, even the thought of going on dates is scary for me. I have had several heartbreaks where i had been fooled into the idea that i was loved. We want to be their knights in shining armour, their romance story, the whole package. Charlotte stressed the difference between her phobia and a fear of commitment, saying: I’m actually married now so it’s not a commitment issue thing. And whenever I think about any fuzzy relationships or even see one, I feel the need to throw up. These can be terrible since the sufferer often feels dizzy, or feels like running away, crying, shaking or sweating profusely or even feels as if s/he is fainting. I am now at a stage where I think he doesn’t understand so he will leave me anyway. I dont even have secrets! The fear of love (or falling in love) phobia is known as Philophobia. And I began to push people away or become distant myself. I think I might have Philophia because my brother died and a few days later my parents also divorced. But treatments can help. I never could know if any relationship even would work with people who I would find attractive. Anxiety and panic attacks sound familiar, so does finding it hard to open up. 2. Can anyone help me? I broke up with my recent boyfriend and well I still loved him. I am full of negativity. I just wanna say, it sounds like you have Autophobia (fear of being left alone/abandoned) due to you are not scared of them loving you, but you are scared that they will leave you. But who will tell them that I was scared. I was so happy it felt as if I was on cloud 9. Read on to learn everything you need to know about philophobia, what causes it, and how you can overcome it. I think I might have philophobia. He asks for my number and I gave it to him. Thank you fear." Every time I tried to move he didn’t let me. My advice is, you should consult a counselling practitioner. This is the name that many people use to describe the severe wolf fear that they may possess – and is used in somewhat serious … That’s really funny. As if I have a love repellant! I was married before and abused mentally, verbally, emotionally and physically. You sound just like me. Take the time to meditate and figure out what you love. I felt numb and emotionless. Don’t pressure them to do things they’re not ready to do. The fear is love. Please don’t even think this is negative, because it’s not! I’ll go on dates here and there. And he suddenly broke up with me and started going after her. I can imagine that “short-term relationships” are truely poisonous for people that already fear love because of fate and its transience. My son knows his dad but does not get the time he deserves from him. Their relationship was not working and my dad kept another woman outside my house. Learn about agoraphobia causes, symptoms, and…. Quite a change today from the old days when it was much easier finding real love back then the way that it happened for our family members. Then love will come. I don’t get too attached in a relationship because what if I like the guy and he doesn’t like me back that just gives me more pain to add to my pity party. Automatonophobia is the fear of human-like figures, like mannequins, wax figures, or statues. I used to be able to have relationships, long term relationships easily with men I did not love (but I didn’t realize I didn’t love them, it just felt calm and easy) and when I realized how crazy this was I tried dating men I loved and admired and it has been horrible. My friends and family don’t even bother asking me anymore if or ever I’ll go on a date let alone be in a relationship. This is leading to unreasonable and incautious interaction with each other based on subjective lust-oriented attitude and many failed or feared relationships, a social development which definitely hurts and damages people. The word originates from Greek “filos,” which means ‘loving or beloved.’ Individuals who have this phobia fear romantic love or forming emotional attachments of any sort. The last few years I just don’t even date anymore because my behavior has been so embarrassing (and uncontrollable!). I am scared of you. I also don't know why so if anyone has advice,it would help me … I couldn’t believe that I wasn’t the only one who suffered through this and I almost cried out when I found someone who related to me, or at least to what I felt. After some time he started going out with my friend, it was very painful. I really do love him but scared it might end up like the other ones. People love me and wants to be with me but somehow i end up getting distant from them. We were together for 4 years but from time to time he said that we were friends, that I was crazy etc. This is a crappy phobia to have when you actually want love and to have that special person in your life. Just why. DSED makes it difficult for people with the disorder to form deep, meaningful connections to others. I can’t keep a woman interested, but that’s not women’s fault, as if women were some monolithic hive-mind. And maybe that reason causes you to fear of what you yourself may do. I’m a 35 year old female who never been in a relationship (yes still a virgin). I guess the root of the issue is – cultural problem (love marriage is taboo), my mom and dad are not close or something. Such person if gets into a relationship, would be very possessive and anxious about the other person driving them away. If you change your negative thoughts into positive, then people will change. Working out, reading, and learning new languages are all very good things to do, and I would say keep doing them, but if the heart of the issue is that you believe no one loves you, then all those things that you are doing to try and keep yourself distracted are useless, because hobbies are not substitutes for human interaction or human love. I know it’s not like that with every guy but in my mind I’m like why bother trying, I will get someone exactly like my brother and also I’m not afraid to die alone either. 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